Valentines Day is 14th February
This month I’m looking at ways to strenghten your relationship bond…
Love; Cherishes life and the people and things in it. Love appreciates, It recognises the value in relationships and the importance of connections in our lives. Love seeks companionship and knows how to share, It bonds and securely connects hearts to one another. Love knows no judgment, feels no remorse, and knows no boundaries. Love has a life of its own. It lives on long after a physical life has ended. Robin MC Knight.
The following information is taken from my relationship ebook, Creating… healthy relationships ©.
It is part of a personal breakthrough package.
It will be available soon!
7 steps to strengthen your relationship bond
Step 1
Make it a goal to understand your partner on a deeper level.
What are your partners needs and desires?
What is important to your partner about love?
What are your partners boundaries?
* Mel’s tips: Timing is important when finding out about your partner on a deeper level.
Whilst sometimes there is a perfect opportunity to ask a direct question, at other times it pays to be less direct.. for eg: getting your partners views on topics that may be covered in films, TV, books and magazines etc.. can give you and insight to their needs, desires and what is important to them. You can then learn about their core beliefs and values about certain things, by asking them what their opinion is.
Step 2
Make your partner a priority in your life.
How can you meet more of your partners needs?
How can you demonstrate that you have your partners best interests at heart?
How can you give make yourself more available to your partner?
* Mel’s tips: If your a man “man up” and treat your partner like a lady, be protective and look out for her, help her out and check in with her daily, even if it is just a simple text to ask how she is… show you care! If your a woman it’s good to be independent but don’t forget to be supportive of your man and gently encourage him to help you out now and again, show your gratitude when he’s being loving and looking out for you, and return the love in ways he will appreciate.
In any type of relationship – show your partner that their important to you!
Step 3
Make it a goal to make the most of your time together.
Do you turn towards your partner with positive bids of affection?
Do you make frequent positive bids of affection?
Do you do spend your time together doing things that you both enjoy?
* Mel’s tips: Regularly turn towards your partner with warmth, love and humour. If they do happen to catch you at a stressful moment and you have reacted defensively or have been a bit snappy with them, aknowlede this and make up for it. Snap out of moods quickly by simply letting things go, make the most of your time together by having fun and being loving and understanding.
Step 4
Be more forgiving
How can you be less hard on yourself?
How can you be less hard on your partner?
What will it take for you to let this go, to leave it in the past and enjoy your current reality?
Mel’s tips: Allow yourself to see past seeming errors, mistakes, and misunderstandings and see love.
Aknowlede the truth and work on a solution and resolution.
Respect your partners reasons and choices.
Step 6
Create Harmony
Do you think that your parter should know when you need their help or support?
Do you notice when your partner needs help and support?
What will you do to create more harmony?
Mel’s tips: Become more aware of the balance within your relationship, notice when it is your turn to give a bit more, receive gracefully and show gratitude and appreciation. Don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader speak up, just ask them nicely if you need their help or support with something.
Step 7
Be congrugent
Are you behaving in ways that support and reflect your inner truth?
Are you behaving in ways that support your relationship goals as a couple?
How will you embrace the truth at times when you have inner conflict?
Mel’s tips: Work with what is real at any given moment, do not dwell on bad feelings instead look at your options and alternatives. Find solutions and recognise new perspectives and understandings.
Have a lovely Valentines day,
Melanie Rivera.
"Love is in the air"
